Sauntering

Image by  Will Simpson

Image by Will Simpson

In a lifetime of many, many independent choices, small and large, a career with a vision will get you a distance proportional to n, while no vision will get you only the distance √n. In a sense, the main difference between those who go far and those who do not is some people have a vision and the others do not and therefore can only react to the current events as they happen.
— Richard Hamming

Aimless wandering in this sense is a problem. Intentional 'aimless wandering', sauntering is another story.

Solitude is being with immediate experience. A sense of meaning comes from acting with intention. Sauntering with the intention to be present with the immediate experience.

Hope you have an awesome day!

This journal is meant as a reminder to encourage my future self. Where I work on my mental fitness and ‘adulting’. A reminder to him to operate in the world with love and compassion and some tips put together in a moment of clarity to help him when he is less clear and caught up in stuff the he can’t control.  Continue the conversation anytime: will@kestrelcreek.com.


Sweet encouragement.

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Abandon hope for results.

First part is the abandonment. The letting go of holding. Settling into the present, to what just is. Without extra. Or thought of any reward. Second, hope is wishful thinking and is an added layer on life. A sign of harboring impatience. The third part, don’t look for results, improvement or even enlightenment. As the Heart Sutra tells us that there is no wisdom to attain as attainment is empty.

Let go of the silly thought "I will not get better as a result of my study and practice". It is self-centered to want to get better. Hope that mind training will help you deal with your life is egoistic and needs to be let go of.

Life turns out how it does and not how we hope it does. Hoping and wishing doesn’t make it so. Seems more fruitful to focus on how life and practice are and less or not at all on how we hope (wish) life would be. This hope or wish is an acknowledgment that things are not as we want them. Our expectations don’t match reality. Somehow we feel our wants trump reality and try and operate from there.

Hope for success blinds us to the process of life. The moments of experience. Of joy and connection. Hoping is a wish for something else that is not present. It holds us back from working on what wants attention. 'Do what needs to be done now because it needs to be done now, not for the result it might bring.' The hope for success and the fear of failure and rejection. Abandon all hope of rewards.

This is a call to be your best in the present moment and go happily on.

Hope you have an awesome day!

This journal is meant as a reminder to encourage my future self. Where I work on my mental fitness and ‘adulting’. A reminder to him to operate in the world with love and compassion and some tips put together in a moment of clarity to help him when he is less clear and caught up in stuff the he can’t control.  Continue the conversation anytime: will@kestrelcreek.com.


Interstitial Gratitude

Gratitude is found in-the-moment not in retrospect.

Most gratitude exercises are centered around writing three or so things that you are grateful for every day. Recall and remember. Notoriously fallible and for some hard to do. This exercise can reduce this exercise to listing the broad categories of privileges and advantages in life.

To create a real-time felt sense of gratitude notice them when they are currently happening. Communicate them directly, out loud - to the specific target of the gratitude, to a random person, or to an empty room. The act of vocalizing gratitude can reify it.

Interstitial is becoming my favorite word. Interstitial gratitude. Seeing gratitude in the current situation. Gratitude in the present moment. If you're going to add anything to the present moment, you could do worst the adding a sense of gratitude. 

Image by  Will Simpson

Image by Will Simpson

What makes this so powerful is that gratitude becomes a normal by-product daily life. It requires no evaluating, comparing or thinking.

When we seek our gratitude only by thinking and remembering, something as obscure as the beauty of sunlight passing through steam would never occur to us.
— David Cain

If you want to feel gratitude mixed in the day, forget the once or twice a day recollecting and instead express the interstitial moment of gratitude. Not just for the big life scale events. Vocalize them or pause in the moment and jot them down in a notebook. You’d have to have a notebook to jot these things down in, so start carrying one everywhere. Pay attention, grab small opportunities. 

At any moment you can reflect on what is helpful or beautiful and express gratitude for that because it won’t be there the next time you look. Don’t just snuggle to identify it, enjoy the experience itself. This is what can be hard as we are taught that we need to name, label our experiences. Hard to just enjoy an experience and not express gratitude. 

Gratitude is a very individual thing. One its characteristics is the way it is so clear to me but maybe not you. Someone else understanding is not a requirement. These details count and add up even in the midst of unresolved problems. 

With this practice, you can bring this type of gratitude spontaneously to the big picture conditions of your life. 

Examples composed NOT in the moment - Boring

Being able to see
Not being born as a person 5000 years ago
Warm house
Mary, my sweetie

Interstitial examples - Mixed in the moment - Dynamic

The snow-covered park bench looks cold unlike me
I love the music here in the cafe
This moment's reflection - I don’t have tooth pain now
The smell of brewing coffee

Hope you have an awesome day!

Credits — David Cain

This journal is meant as a reminder to encourage my future self. Where I work on my mental fitness and ‘adulting’. A reminder to him to operate in the world with love and compassion and some tips put together in a moment of clarity to help him when he is less clear and caught up in stuff the he can’t control.  Continue the conversation anytime: will@kestrelcreek.com.