Communication isn’t only about finding the right words. It’s about finding the right reason to say them.
And that reason is LOVE and the desire to connect.
Life is sneaky. You are trying to become a better person by reading inspirational books and you are meditating regularly, You feel progress on the cushion then suddenly, you loose that special, no longer make stocking hat your sweetie bought for you and the world falls apart.
Letting thoughts run the show so to speak. Arguing about this and that, there is crying, body tension, speaking loudly with foreign insistence, let frustration creep in, saying ill considered things for ill considered reasons.
A recipe for terror.
What is the antidote? Not sure.
A seemingly tangential insight she pointed out was that communication in my family as I grew up was poorly modeled. Poor only begins to describe it. Non existent is more like it. The same goes for love. I remember not a single conversation or display of love with my family growing up. I can’t let this continue to influence the present. Stepping up communication skills will help, can’t hurt, and might be the antidote.
Hope you have an awesome day!
This journal is meant as a reminder to encourage my future self. Where I work on my mental fitness and ‘adulting’. A reminder to him to operate in the world with love and compassion and some tips put together in a moment of clarity to help him when he is less clear and caught up in stuff the he can’t control. Continue the conversation anytime: firstname.lastname@example.org.